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Daivd, I 'met' you through FaceBook during my initial obsession with adding 'friends' on "Are you interested." You were early on when I had less than 200 friends. So when you created the blog space I figured why not join. I am HIV -, not a blogger and very rarely read other people's blogs. So I don't know what it was that made me decide to actually click on the blog page and have a quick read. I guess I feel that I talk to people all day, or I should say people find me to talk. I hear the stories about ex-husbands trying to take the kids away, the stories of so-and-so cheating, or what's-her-name just found out she has cancer. Dealing with what's going on right in front you can be all consuming that you forget sometimes there is a whole world out there. So anyway, I clicked because of the title. Hmmm...and then certain things resonated in me. I too was single after having been in a relationship for 8 years (he decided to become a she...long story). I moved from West Hollywood to Barstow (way out in the desert about 2 hrs from LA and Vegas) with a $50K pay cut in order to help my Mom take care of my Dad (another long story). After a year I had to do an intervention and rescue my younger brother from the streets. We grow up hearing fairy tales that begin "Once upon a time in a land far far away..." whereby some prince charming comes to the rescue and everyone lives happily ever after. Here I was in a red-neck town going WTF. Does this mean my prince will come through the desert on a quad? After nearly a year of doing nothing much other than going out drinking every night I decided to reinvent myself. No more 'my ex-he is now a she.' No more 'I'm bored and there's nothing to do.' I decided to create things for me to be involved in, or search for things locally to participate in. Gone were the premier parties and smart martinis at the Abbey, but in it's stead was a charity that fed the homebound elderly and hospice patients. Gone were cocktail parties in the hills, but in it's stead was being a board member on the Chamber of Commerce. Gone were the nights at Fubar, Motherload, Here, East West and O Bar, but in it's stead planting a garden for the Hinkley Senior Center. You are right in that the only one who can do this is yourself no matter the circumstance. I haven't found anyone worth dating more than a week just yet, but hey if they come up on a quad I just might hop on. Thanx again for reminding me to go beyond my microcosm of a world and take the time to see and read what's happening to others. Mark
David
Mark, I knew a little of your story, but not all. Thanks for sharing, and I'm glad my blogging touch something in you. Love yourself, because at one moment that may be all your have. I hope you find your prince charming...on his ATV!!! ;) David
August 27, 2008