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Lynn, it may be difficult to meet the right person, but please don't ever give up on having a healthy relationship. I think you know that loving and supporting another human being can make all of the problems we face seem less overwhelming. Hang in there.
When to tell is my biggest problem. Sometimes its same day, sometimes its never. The problem attached with never is that then I wont make friends, so I rather tell. Some stick around a bit to avoid disappointing me, some dont, but I prefer those who don't at least that way, I wont be counting them in. i have found my family to be very supportive almost to the point of fussing but I am freer I told them than when I kept it to myself for two whole years, its now five years one on ARVs apart from a few dietary problems most of the time I can compete against Dame Kelly. As for relationships, I have given up, all men I have met claim to be negative so I have given up on relationships even if I long for one. Perhaps I 've been meeting the wrong persons altogether. I guesss its normal in most people living with HIV/AIDS not to be in relationships.
At the Children's Rights Centre here in Durban, South Africa, we are particularly concerned with children living with HIV and have produced an interactive picture book for them to use MY LIVING POSITIVELY HANDBOOK. Look at our website - and bless you both!
Thank you all for sharing. You have given me more hope than you can imagine. I have an adopted son who was HIV+ at birth. He is now nine, quite healthy, but with lots of mental difficulties, which may or may not be from his HIV. There isn't much out there on Pediatric HIV/ADIS, so these posts mean a lot to me. I pray often that he will have a long and productive life. I have not told him yet, for the same reasons many of you have not told people. I told a person I thougt was a friend and oops she disappeared...... As a mother I couldn't bear to have the few friends he has disappear too!!! I have no idea when I'll tell him, most likely when I am forced to for what ever reason comes up at the time. Thank you again, my prayer are with all of you!!!
Hi David, I really must say to you that your story touch a piece of my heart that only we as people living with HIV can understand and comprehend. Like you, I have been living with HIV and Hep C for over 10 years now. I under went treatment for my Hep C back in 2001. Today,I am Hep C free. Everyday I try to give back to my community hope and dreams. In 2005, I founded a non profit "Project Link Of South Florida", in the three years that we have been opened, we were able to help over 2500 people living with HIV/Hep C. I will say that this has not been an easy task, but after reading your story, I am finding the energy and strenth to continue my mission with keeping Project Link open. Please feel free to visit our website @ www.plosf.org, which will tell you more about Project Link May God bless you and keep you well. Jay McLaughlin Fort Lauderdale, Florida
Hi, This is a touching story as for me i have been here 7yrs fighting this fight .i have learn a lot i am sorry to hear your friend had not died a free man.but keep up the good fight up we all need each other .most of my friends are pos and the little that are not is who accepted me for who i am and what i have .the are very supportive .i now work in the field of hiv as a community outreach worker.in this way i know i am gaving back to my community.
Hello! I will have to agree witht he rest of the folks! It is a story that touched home. I tested PoZ in 89. It has been a rollercoster ride that I really wish I had not ridden. Yet it has made me the person I am today. As for me well I kinda knew some thing was up. I know whom I caught it from and have since forgiven him. Yet still one always comes accrossed a reminder of life. As for Michaels delemia! WOW !!! When is the right time to tell or not to tell. Me I just try to make sure it is in the first 15mins. THis way I do not waste my time. I have had folks run outa my apt. I have had folks tell me they could not date me cause I was going to die! Well there are several reasons That me and the family are not close. Main one is I guess I have always been me. Never really holding my tounge. And not caring whom heard me for what I was saying could have been about any one. Not about them. My what egos we all have as humans. Well any way I do not hang with any one whom does not accept that I am GAY or that I am HIV/AIDS YOU will find out whom you can really trust and whom will stand by you no matter what! I have that now with my family my Chruch family. I go to JOY MCC here and it is where I feel most at home. Thanks for the story and being able to voice my opinion and concern about when to tell!!!!!
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November 13, 2008